I hope I didn’t throw you off there with the m-word. In no way, shape, or form am I suggesting that you should stop having fun in social settings. Socially mature is simply being aware of the social environment that you are in and learning how to relate to family, friends, partners, and your community. We’ll go over different aspects of all of these, but don’t worry, we’re not going to get too mushy or sappy.
Part of social maturity is knowing how to communicate. Communication between you and your friends will probably be different than communication between you and your partner, which will be different than the communication between you and your acquaintances. The first step in communication is to determine who you’re talking to and what setting you’re in, these will drive the style of communication you proceed with. Chances are, you’re not going to want to talk with your mom the same way you talk to your buds at the bar.
Another part of social maturity, and a crucial one, is how you present yourself. Let’s say you’re heading to meet someone you respect for the first time. You walk up to this person, hunched over with poor posture, poorly dressed, and give them a handshake that the queen would call sissy. How do you think you will be perceived? Surely not as the confident, up-standing person you’d like to be thought as. It’s important that you walk around with your head held high (okay, not too too high) and dressed appropriately for the occasion. It’s important that you carry yourself, everyday, with confidence and self-respect like every minute could be a first impression.
This section is designed to help you make your parents proud of the young person you are and how you carry yourself. We’ll go over everything you’ll need to make your next dinner outing a success. From the minute you walk up (posture, attire, shaking hands), through the meal (etiquette, communication), to the time you leave (gratitude, saying bye).